Speeding through the birthing process, contractions increasing in verocity and length, I made it to the hospital four centemeters dialated. Breathing through the pain, and consiquently not screaming or commiting to any kind of hysterics (you'd all be quite proud, although I imagine some of you are dissapointed.)
Within a few hours, and after being heavily medicated, I was complete and ready to give birth.
Now... for those of you planning on having children in the future, that are under the same dillusion that I was, that the epidural is going to take away ALL of the pain and thus make labor a completely stress-free experience... you are very very wrong. An epidural is pain MANAGEMENT, meant only to lighten the load, so to speak. In order for one to give birth effectively, you must feel some amount of pain, in order to know when and when not to push. Imagine my surprise when the head found it's way between my legs, and I was VERY aware of my nerves as did so.
Oh yes, and of course one needs to ONLY push with the onslaught of a contraction and merely wait for the next, pushing in ten second intervals.
Now... when you have something only slightly smaller than a bowling ball between your legs and someone tells you to just LEAVE it there, until the next contraction... one gets real uncomfortable, REAL fast.
Still, let me emphasise...
DO WHAT THE DOCTOR TELLS YOU.
He says push, PUSH
He says hold, HOLD
I was in active labor for only 45 minutes before I held my child in my arms, and I didn't tear or have an episiotomy. I was on my feet the next day, and now, over a week later, I feel great.. (other than getting used to sleeping in three hour intervals.)
Zoë Coraline ter Veen, was born at 10:46am, December 26th, 2005 and she's been a blessing ever since, I will be back in San Diego soon, to share her with those I love and try to figure out this whole parent-thing.